What Do They See in Me?


An interesting thing happens to me all the time. Maybe it happens to you, too. I haven’t ever told anyone about it. So, maybe it happens to everyone. I have no idea. But, it is an amazing experience.

It is something that has baffled me for a while now. And, I think I have finally figured it out.

Whenever I am in public places, babies and toddlers stare at me – with an innocent, kind fascination… and they don’t stop. (And, I am not one of those people who love and cuddle on cute, little kids. So, it isn’t something I am doing. It is something they see in me – even when I’m not paying attention. I just look up and…. boom – they are watching me…)

What do they see?

Whatever it is, they like it.

Here is what I think it is.

They see the REAL me… that me that is under the layers and layers of learned defenses that have built up over the years.

I think babies and toddlers are still pure themselves – without so much influence from the outside world weighing on their personalities. And, I think that is what they see in others. That “self” that so many adults are desperately seeking to find.

So, it got me thinking.

Who is this person they see? And, how can I be her all the time?

She is me when… 

  • All my defenses are down.
  • I am calm and have a peaceful heart.
  • I’m not trying to impress others.
  • I’m not trying to be perfect and have all the answers.
  • I’m not worried about what others think of me.
  • I’m not judging myself.

“She” is ok with being exactly who I am in this very moment. 

That is all it takes to bring joy to babies and toddlers?

Wow. That is powerful.

So, next time I feel anxious… stressed… afraid… judged…. 

I’m going to think of that “REAL” me under all these layers of defense. 

How can she help me get through this tough moment in time?